bridesmaid john birkbeck She said if she died first I should get a tall Nordic girl with long legs like an acrobat, just like the bridesmaid at the first of our several weddings. We didn't learn from experience; what is it called, recidivism? We both tried to learn Swedish from the girl, and I must admit, I didn't learn it, kept going back for irrefreshible lessons, starting from scratch each time; like an addict.